Let’s be real: so many of us grew up thinking that if we didn’t climax from sex, it was our fault. That maybe our bodies were broken. That we were too complicated. That we just needed to relax and it would magically happen.
Spoiler: it’s not your fault. And no, your body isn’t broken.
Here’s the truth no one told us:
Most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone. And you know what is broken? The idea that we should just lie back, smile, and fake it so no one feels awkward.
Been There, Faked That.
“I used to fake it. A lot. I didn’t want to hurt his feelings, and I figured it was easier to just go along with it than to stop and say, ‘Actually… that’s not working for me.’ But deep down, I felt disconnected—from my partner, and from myself. It was like I was playing a role instead of actually enjoying what was happening.”
Sound familiar?
So many women grow up with zero sex education about what actually feels good for us. It’s all about “pleasing your partner,” not about discovering your own pleasure.
But here’s the game-changer:
Pleasure is a two-way street. And your needs are not a luxury—they’re essential.
How to Stop Faking and Start Feeling:
Know what works for YOU.
- Get curious about your own body. Explore solo. Figure out what feels good, so you can confidently ask for it later.
Speak up (yes, even if it feels awkward at first).
- “Can we slow down?”
- “Try using your fingers too.”
- “That feels amazing—don’t stop.”
These aren’t demands. They’re directions. And the right partner? They’ll thank you for them.
No more ‘one-size-fits-all’ sex.
- Penetration-only sex might work in rom-coms, but IRL? Most of us need clitoral stimulation to get there. That doesn’t make you “difficult.” It makes you… human.
Use the “Yes, More, Stop” trick.
- Yes = Keep doing that
- More = It’s working, ramp it up
- Stop = Nope, let’s try something else
- Simple, clear, powerful.
Why This Matters:
When you speak up for your pleasure, everything changes. You feel more connected, more present, and way more into it. No more pretending. No more quiet hoping. Just actual, honest-to-goodness good sex.
And listen—if you’ve been faking it for years, no shame. Most of us have. But starting today? You don’t have to anymore.
Your pleasure is not a bonus—it’s the baseline.
The Bottom Line?
- Faking it doesn’t serve anyone.
- Your voice in the bedroom matters.
- The hottest thing you can do is ask for what you want.
So go ahead—say it louder. You’ve got a body that knows what it needs. All you have to do… is listen.
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