We talk about everything with our partners—what to eat, where to go, which show to binge next.
But when it comes to sex? We freeze up.
We assume. We guess. We fake it. All because no one taught us that talking about sex is just as important as having it.
Here’s the truth:
Great sex doesn’t start with touch—it starts with a conversation
Here’s IT:
“I thought our sex life was totally fine. Nothing was bad—but nothing was mind-blowing either. We were doing all the ‘right’ things. But once we started talking openly—like, actually saying what we liked and didn’t like—it changed everything. It stopped feeling like something we were supposed to do and started feeling like something we were creating together.”
That’s the difference between sex that’s just “okay” and sex that makes you wake up smiling.
It’s not about technique. It’s about honesty.
Want Better Sex Instantly? Say Something
Talk before, during, and after.
- A flirty “Can’t wait to see you later” builds anticipation. A “That felt amazing when you did that” reinforces connection. And a “Can we try something new next time?” opens the door to discovery.
Lose the ‘shoulds.’
- You don’t have to like what everyone else likes. Forget what TikTok trends say. Figure out what turns you on—and don’t be afraid to share that.
Use check-ins, not guesswork.
- Consent isn’t just a checkbox—it’s ongoing. And even mid-sex, you can pause. You can adjust. You can change your mind. That’s not a mood killer—it’s respect.
Get specific.
- “Yes, right there.” “A little softer.” “Hold me like that again.” This isn’t bossy—it’s hot. When you’re vocal, your partner learns how to love you better.
CARE Tip: Try a “Pleasure Debrief”
After sex, try this low-pressure conversation:
- “What did you enjoy most?”
- “Is there anything you want more of next time?”
- “Wanna try something we’ve never done before?”
Do it while cuddled up. While brushing your teeth. Or even during a post-sex snack. It doesn’t need to be formal—it just needs to be REAL.
These convos build intimacy, set the tone for your next experience, and make everyone feel more seen and understood.
Let’s Make This the New Normal:
- Talking about sex isn’t awkward—it’s essential.
- You deserve sex that’s based on connection, not assumptions.
- Great lovers don’t just perform—they communicate.
We’re not here for quiet frustration. We’re here for full-body yeses, deeper connection, and mutual pleasure.
And it all starts with one simple question: “What do you actually like?”
Talk First. Then Touch. Then Feel Everything.
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More truths, tips, and cheeky reminders to speak up and get what feels good? You know where to find us—@carelatex.nz on social media. We’re not here to whisper about sex. We’re here to talk about it—with you.