Women wanting sex – still gets side-eyed
We’re told to be desirable, not demanding. To be wanted, not wanting. To lie back and hope for the best, instead of standing up and asking for better.
But that version of sex?
It’s over. Dead. Buried with bad lighting and silent moans.
This is your permission slip to stop being a passenger in your own pleasure—and start taking the wheel.
Why Taking Charge Isn’t Just Empowering—It’s Necessary
Let’s get this straight:
Knowing what you want and going after it isn’t intimidating. It’s magnetic.
When women take charge of their pleasure, something wild happens:
- You stop faking it.
- You stop doubting your body.
- You stop settling for “almost.”
- And you start owning every second of the experience.
Taking the lead doesn’t mean you have to dominate. It means you stop waiting for someone else to guess what you want.
Because you’re not here to play polite—you’re here to feel amazing.
How to Start Leading in the Bedroom (Without Overthinking It)
If the idea of taking control feels overwhelming or awkward, start small. Like, really small. This isn’t about becoming someone you’re not—it’s about finally honouring what’s already inside you.
1. Relearn Your Body First
Before you tell someone else what feels good, make sure you know.
Explore solo—not just to climax, but to discover what makes your body hum. What pressure do you like? Where do you like being touched first? Slow or fast? Gentle or intense?
You can’t direct the scene if you don’t know the script.
2. Change the Language in Your Head
Replace: “I hope this feels good” With: “What do I want right now?”
Swap: “Let’s just get through this” For: “Let’s make this count.”
Shift your internal dialogue from hoping to choosing. It’s not selfish—it’s sexual sovereignty.
3. Take the First Step, Even If It’s Just a Touch
Leading doesn’t have to be a grand gesture. It can be as simple as:
- Rolling over and pulling them closer
- Whispering what you want
- Placing their hand where you want it
- Guiding their movement with your hips
Own your initiation. Even a single confident moment can completely flip the energy in the room.
Create a Pre-Sex Ritual That’s Just for You
Set the tone before anything physical happens.
Light a candle. Change the sheets. Put on a playlist that makes you feel like the main character in your own romance film. Wear something you feel good in—not for them, for you.
Your body will follow where your mind goes first.
CARE Tip: The “Power Playlist” Trick
This one’s simple and powerful: Next time you’re alone, try touching yourself in front of a mirror—not for performance, but for connection.
Look at yourself. Own your curves, your expressions, your pleasure. Get used to seeing yourself as the subject, not the sidekick.
Because if you can turn yourself on?
You become unstoppable.
Own Your Pleasure. Don’t Outsource It
You don’t need someone to give you permission to feel good.
You don’t need to wait for a perfect mood, perfect partner, perfect moment.
You just need to say: I want this. I deserve this. I’m allowed.
And once you flip that switch? You’ll never go back to silent “maybe”s and fake yeses again.
So go get it, Girl. You’ve always had the power.
Ready to Take the Lead?
Now Make It Feel Even Better.
CARE condoms are made for women who take charge of their pleasure. You’re not “too much.” You’re just getting started.
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